Develop Your Own Style to Show Who You Are

How you look says volumes about you to others. You already know this on some level. You want to look creative, or different, or mainstream, or identify with a particular group. If you take the time to develop your own style, you can have some control over how others first perceive you.

You only have one opportunity to make a good first impression. Think about this: If you don’t care how you look, it tells others you don’t care about yourself. Your poor appearance has them question why they should care about you either. After all, you know you best.

I have learned that you can be very creative and look creative, but still look like you took the time to pull yourself together. One of the most creative people I know always looks well groomed, but his earrings, rings and bracelets let the world know he is a creative. Many of the most famous fashion designers are known for wearing all black.

Where to Start when Developing Your Own Style

You are unique and your own personal style should reflect what is unique about you. In developing your own style, start by getting to know yourself. Ask yourself some questions:

What styles and colors do you like and, more importantly, look good on you?
What do you want your appearance to say about you?
How much time do you want to spend getting yourself together?

Listen to what others say about your hair or clothes when you try something new. Don’t be afraid to try new styles and colors. When I was a lot younger, I was asked to try on a dress in a color which I would never have tried on my own, and got so many compliments about the color and the dress that that color became my ‘signature’ color. I started wearing a lot more dresses too.

Who Do You Want to Impress?

While its most important to think about what you like when developing your own style, it does help to also think about who you want to impress. While worn out graphic tees and ripped jeans may be fine for your friends, will they be attractive to the professional women you are interested in dating? What women think is attractive on a person is not the same as what men find attractive. Think about who, besides yourself, you are dressing to dazzle.

Be Realistic About Your Time and Energy

Nobody has enough time, but how much time do you want to invest in your appearance? Are you willing to spend more time to look better? How much do you enjoy pulling yourself together? In later posts, LifeSkill Secrets will address some of these questions in more detail, but for now, ask the questions and know your answers.

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