The way you treat your belongings and surroundings is a reflection of the way you view yourself. If your surroundings are neglected, cluttered and poorly maintained, it doesn’t speak well about how you respect yourself. The good news is that you can improve your self view by improving your environment and your care for your belongings. Treat your things as if they are the most cherished possessions of the person you love most. They are – or will be. Tidy and organized living space, clothes, possessions, and car will save you time, money and aggravation, and will make you feel more in control of your life.
Quick Cleaning for Company
You have company coming and the place needs some quick cleaning up to do. Where to start and what do you do first.
There are four main areas to attack when you need to quick cleaning; clutter, flat surfaces, making it sanitary and making it sparkle. The last step is to make it company ready.
Quick Cleaning Clutter
Quick cleaning starts with a clutter attack. The first thing guests notice is if there is stuff lying around everywhere. Grab a laundry basket or box and go around collecting all the clutter Start at your front door and before you begin, close your eyes for a minute and pretend this isn’t YOUR home, but someone else’s.
There is a thing called Familiarity Blindness. If you look at the same thing over and over your stop processing it- you get used to it and don’t really SEE it. Which means you used to your own out-of-place stuff and don’t notice it anymore. Kind of like the way you can get used to your own body odor and, though offensive to others, you may not even notice it.
Doing this exercise before you start will help you to see the stuff you’ve gotten used to and that may appear messy to someone else. Now start at the front door and go to the right through your entire home until you are back at the front door. Collect everything that is not where it ought to be or that might get knocked over or broken with company. Also remove any valuables that you don’t want to leave lying around.
If you have time at the end, go through the box or basket and put things where they belong. If you really don’t have time, stash the box in a closet but put the stuff away tomorrow.
Flat Surfaces
As you go through your home, be sure every flat surface is clear. Sounds obvious but again, we let stuff rest on counters, dressers, nightstands and even the floor and bed. Then it starts to get busy and multiply while we are not looking. Become the flat surface police and make each flat surface look good. If really pressed for time, just put the things that are out of place in your box or basket as you go.
Then clean the flat surfaces: Wipe down counters, dust everything, vacuum carpets and rugs and sweep floors.
Quick Cleaning to Make it Sanitary
Be sure that areas that need to be sanitary are by using appropriate cleaners for them. Clean the toilet and the bathroom sink. This only takes a few minutes. Squeeze toilet bowl cleaner into the toilet and spray the counters and sink with bathroom cleaner. Let them sit for a couple of minutes. Then swish the toilet with a toilet brush and wipe down the counters and sink, first with a bathroom sponge and then with a microfiber cloth.
Clean the kitchen sink. What you use depends on the type of sink you have. I have white porcelain so use a product called SoftScrub with bleach to get tea stains out of the porcelain. Whatever you are using, spray on then wipe down with a kitchen sponge (one used just for cleaning, not also for dishes).
Make it Sparkle
The art of quick cleaning lies in the sparkle factor. This takes little effort but really makes a place look cleaner. Be sure that any surface that is supposed to shine does. Using a microfiber cleaning cloth and very little water, wipe down mirrors, faucets in the bathroom and kitchen and anything else that ought to shine.
Make it Company Ready
Check there is a clean hand towel in the bathroom and a fresh roll of toilet paper. If bad weather, be sure there is a mat at the front door for people to wipe or remove their shoes. Have enough room in the coat closet for their coats or provide a place for them (on a bed in the guest room or over a chair that they won’t be sitting on).
Be sure there are enough places for people to sit.
Super. Now go to your front door, close your eyes and then take one last look around to be sure everything is ready. Do any additional quick cleaning and you are ready to go!
Don’t forget to sort through and clean up the things in your box or basket either before company comes or the next day.
Have a great time!
What’s the most intimidating thing about having company over?
Importance of Regular Car Maintenance
At the very least, your car gets you where you need to go. To keep that important function working, regular car maintenance is necessary. Start with your OWNERS MANUAL for finding out what, and sometimes how, to maintain your specific vehicle.
Step one: find and READ your owner’s manual.
If you cant find it, Google it online. (I recommends Googling things. You can find out how to do or fix almost anything on the web. Since LifeSkill Secrets is all about self- care, if you aren’t a champion Googler, get started).
Step two: Make a list of regular care and how often to check
Start with the list below or basic car maintenance. Use it with the owners manual to create for own car maintenance checklist and schedule.
What YOU can do
- Regularly inspect for anything not right or not working- at least once a month:
- tail lights
- headlights
- turn signals
- license readable
- tires air and tread.
- Check fluid levels for:
- antifreeze
- power steering
- coolant
- wiper fluid (learn to change this or find someone do it FOR FREE).
What you may want a mechanic to do
By all means do these you want to and are able!
LifeSkill Secret
Check oil and change it (or get it changed) regularly- anyone who knows car care will tell you that this is the single best investment into the life span and health of your car.
- Check your battery and clean contacts if necessary. If you don’t know how to do this, you can ask your service people to check it- especially before winter and before summer along with the fluid levels.
- Put on new windshield wipers when streaky.
- Replace cabin air filter, more often and especially if you have allergies.
- Replace engine air filter regularly- more often if a lot of stop/start commuter driving- If you trust your car care people, have them check it when making oil changes. Most good mechanics will anyway.
- Get tires rotated and balanced and alignment checked.
- Check and replace spark plugs.
- Check belts (timing and serpentine).
Keep it clean
- Regularly clean the outside- more often if exposed to snow or salt.
- Clean the inside of the car: the windows, dash, controls, seats, carpet and trunk.
LifeSkill Secrets:
KNOW what the warning lights are on your dashboard and what it means when they light up.
NEVER ignore a leak of any fluid
NEVER ignore a sound that doesn’t sound right
ENGINE LIGHTS SHOULD NOT BE IGNORED. Often all you need to do is check that the gas cap is on tightly. If that doesn’t make the laugh go off, it’s a good idea to have the car checked as soon as possible.
Step three: Put car maintenance on your calendar
Let’s be honest, we are all busy. Plan to get your car maintenance done regularly by putting it on your calendar. I don’t remember to get me oil changed it isn’t on my calendar. Each time you have it done, put the next time on the calendar. Twice a year plan to have things checked and fluids filled and have that on the calendar,too. Also, if you know when you are going to have car maintenance done, you can budget for it.
Happy Driving
Using Google
OK. I totally admit that I am boggled at the number of people that don’t really use Google search. Yes, I am on the web for a living, but I was using Google search at least 10 years before I became a web developer. When my son was in high school having trouble getting a Calculus concept, I suggested he Google it, just to see what came up. There were all kinds of tutorials on the Calculus concept he was studying- with step by step explanations. Heck, I could have learned it without a teacher!
“I don’t need to know everything, I just need to know where to find it when I need it.”
– Albert Einstein
You can learn just about anything in the world on the internet. With a little practice, you will get insanely proficient at finding anything you need. Since LifeSkill Secrets is about empowering you, learning to Google for information is probably the easiest way to do it.
Basic Tips for Using Google
Here are some tips for putting a search into the Google search bar:
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Don’t worry about capitalization or spelling
For example: Chocolate Cake Recipe is the same as chocolate cake recipe
Google will check most common spelling s so will give you what you typed, but also what it thinks you may have meant to type. -
Type what you want to know about
For example: Chocolate cake recipe
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Just type a question
For example: How to fix a broken toilet
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Use quotes to search for an exact phrase
This is the oldest and best known trick if you want exact information as it is in the quotes.
For example: “Calculus differential equation tutorials” -
Use an asterisk within quotes if you are unsure of a word or there may be several variations
Can’t remember the name of the equation that you are looking for? Replace the unknown word with an *. If it’s a quote, this is great if you can’t recall an exact word.
For example: “Calculus * equations”Put the asterisk first to get all the variations of a phrase.
For example: “*Love is” gives the results: Love is blind, love is a bitch, love is quotes, love is kind, love is mighty, etc. -
Use the minus sign to eliminate results containing certain words
For example: “Calculus * equations -quadratic”
This will give you all the results for Calculus equations EXCEPT for quadratic equations -
Looking for pictures?
Just add images before or after whatever you want to see images of. Keep in mind though that most images on the web are copyrighted and cannot be used without permission.
For example: tiger images Result shows many images and a “more images for tiger” link
Googling is fun. look up people, look up yourself, look up things you want to know or things you want to buy. Google an address to get a map and directions. Isn’t Googling fun? The more you do it, the better you will get at wording your search to get close to what you want the first time out. Sometimes you don’t. Add a more specific term if you get too many hits, or remove some if you get too few. Searching for someone from your childhood is good practice. Have fun!
Laundry Care Labels
Read the care label – before you buy the item
The best time to read care labels is before you buy the item. If you are unwilling or unable to care for the item as the care labels suggest, give it a pass. By law, all garments are required to have a care label. Care labels will usually be inside the back neck or waist, or attached to the inside of the left seam near the bottom of the garment.
There are reasons that garments are given the label they have. You don’t want the item to shrink or fade or pucker into a mess, so follow the instructions.
When do you need to be more careful than what the care label suggests?
Sometimes you will need to be MORE careful than the care labels instruct you to be. For example, you have a hoodie that you love, but you want to be sure it doesn’t shrink. In this case you may want to hang/air dry it or dry it flat. My son is tall and his hoodies always get too short if they go in the dryer, so we turn them inside out and hang dry them upside down by two clip-type pants hangers at the bottom.
Can you ever use a more aggressive cleaning method than suggested?
As a rule, unless you really know fabric care, follow guidelines on care labels. Other wise you may not be able to use the item or wear the garment. I worked in the fashion industry on fabric care. I did care tests for employer when we had a number of women’s dresses returned that their daughters couldn’t have worn because the care information given to us by the fabric mill was wrong. It was sad (or funny, depending on your point of reference).
I have hand washed sweaters rather than having them dry cleaned because of my sensitivity to chemicals, but it takes a lot of care not to stretch the fabric and there is the risk that washing dry cleanables will shrink them. Rayon for example is often “dimensionally unstable”, meaning it may shrink and/or stretch unevenly. So if you choose to ignore the care labels, remember its AT YOUR OWN RISK.
If you have any questions about laundry or cleaning, let me know and I will try to answer them.
When to Wash clothes, bedding and other washables
Wash everything before you wear it.
I was in fashion for over 10 years, and between the fabric gnats (which bite), the dirt and the residual dyes and chemicals, I have learned you REALLY want to wash clothes and every other washable item before you use or wear it.
Wash some things separately
Some things need to be washed separately the first time (at least) because they can run (dyes bleed into the water causing stains on other items in the laundry), crock (while wearing, the dyes rub off onto furniture and other items of clothing) or lint.
Wash clothes or other items separately that are
- brights (bright or royal blue, emerald or Kelly green, royal purple)
- jeans
- black or very dark things about which you have any concern
- any garment that you can rub the dye off or
- items that you think might lint all over other items (some heavy fleeces/ sweatshirts and towels do this).
How often?
Wash Sheets:
Wash sheets at least once every two weeks. Once a week is better. At the very least, wash the pillowcases every week. If you are sexually active or have been ill, wash the sheets weekly.
The best way to do this is to have two complete sets and remake the bed as you strip it. If you can get 2 sheet sets into the washer, then, if you have 3 sets, you can wash every 2 weeks, while changing every week.
Wash Blankets:
Launder blankets once a month is good; more often if you are allergic, or if they are exposed or dirty; less often if they are kept covered by sheets and coverlet, duvet or comforter.
Wash Towels:
Use towels for 3 baths or showers maximum. Wash them more often if they end up on the floor (which of course, they don’t, right?) Be sure towels are (and everything else is) totally dry before you put them in a hamper.
Wash Clothes:
Use good sense. If you wore it all day, put it in the wash. You may wash outer layers like sweaters and hoodies less frequently. If you are around smoke or other strong odors, you will need to wash after each wearing.
What you will need to wash your laundry:
- Laundry detergent
- Non-Chlorine bleach
- Fabric softener
- A bar of Dove soap this will get out most stains (Dove because the moisturizers lift oily stains)
- Moisten area with cold water
- Between your hands, lather up the Dove bar
- Apply the lather to the stain and lather the stain
- You may need to add more Dove
- Rinse out with cold water, then wash as normal
- Hairspray or stain remover (gets out the other stains, like pen, tar)
Optional:
- Chlorine bleach- be careful where and if you use this. Use it only on white cotton that does not have a ‘do not use chlorine bleach’ care label. Chlorine bleach is the best thing to use to get rid of mold and mildew and (diluted) to clean wooden cutting boards.
- Vinegar- I use a cupful with the fabric softener in the rinse cycle to remove soap or detergent residue.
Can I have my clothes laundered?
Really don’t want to wash clothes? Sending them out to be laundered at a laundry (or some dry cleaning shops also launder) is an option. If it saves you time and aggravation, it may be financially worth it to you – if you can afford it.
I will caution that if you have any allergies, this may not be a good choice because you have less control over the products that are being used. For line-dried and dry flat items, be sure to find out if they have the capacity to do these.
How often to dry clean
Dry clean items depending on usage, wear and your budget. If its dirty, wrinkled or smells, get it dry cleaned. Also dry clean all your dry-cleanables at the end of the season so they are stored clean and are ready to wear next year. After cleaning, be sure to take off the bag and let them air (preferably NOT in the bedroom) for a day or two before wearing.
You are worth clean clothes. It’s good to look your best, and this is a great place to start!
Laundry Sorting and Laundry Products
Laundry Sorting
Almost everyone has a story about laundry sorting disasters. However, with today’s labeling and laundry products, laundry if much easier to figure out and do without a catastrophe.
Download this handy laundry sorting guide. Keep in mind that if the label on a garment tells you something different, then do what it says or use a milder option (cooler water or heat, weaker cleaning agent).
Laundry sorting basically comes down to sorting by color (dark, light, red, brights), weight (towels vs. lingerie) and the amount of laundry you have.
At the most basic, you will have lights and darks (and reds- Don’t mix these with anything else!)
Wash all clothes before wearing them, to keep chemicals (like formaldehyde and other chemicals used to add and set dyes) and critters (fabric mites) off yourself. You probably want to wash dark clothes like jeans and intensely colored towels separately the first time or so becasue they may crock (color rub off on things when dry) or bleed (color runs when wet).
Laundry Products
Don’t use fabric softener on:
- Flame retardant clothing (kid’s jammies- makes them MORE flammable)
- Microfiber (especially if its used for cleaning- prevents absorption and dust attraction and can cause streaking)
- Bamboo (causes serious pilling)
- Athletic clothing with wicking ability (prevents wicking)
- Towels (don’t use or reduce as it makes them less absorbent)
How big is a load?
About the size you can fit into a normal square laundry basket. This depends on the size of washer and dryer you are using, and whether commercial (laundromat) or home. Its best not to overload the washer or dryer or the clothes won’t get clean or dry.
What you will need:
- Laundry detergent
- Non-Chlorine bleach
- Fabric softener
Spots and stains
- A bar of Dove soap this will get out most stains (dove because the moisturizers lift oily stains)
- Moisten area with cold water
- Between your hands, lather up the dove bar
- Apply the lather to the stain and lather the stain
- May need to add more Dove
- Rinse out then wash as normal
- Hairspray (preferably the old fashioned spray kind) or stain remover (gets out the other stains, like pen, tar)
- Spray the hairspray directly on stain til saturated (test small area where it cant be seen first to be sure the dyes can handle it)
- Gently rub the stain area
- Rinse or follow with the Dove bar
- Wash as normal
Optional:
- Chlorine bleach- be careful where and if you use this. Use it only on white cotton that does not have a ‘do not use chlorine bleach’ care label. It’s the best thing to use to get rid of mold and mildew and (diluted) to clean wooden cutting boards.
- Vinegar- I use a cupful with the fabric softener in the rinse cycle to remove soap or detergent residue.
- DeMite laundry Additive if you have allergies to dust mites. Use this on sheets, bed coverings and blankets, and pillows. This can make the sheets smell a bit funky, so I wash in the morning and let them air out during the day.
LifeSkill Secret:
If using a laundromat or laundry room, you may not want to shlep all the large bottles of detergent, non-chlorine bleach, fabric softener and vinegar. I suggest buying small bottles of each (only once because they are more expensive), then filling them to take with you to do the laundry. Keep the smaller bottles in zip lock bags so they don’t leak onto your clean laundry on the trip back.
Buy these products in the larger sizes since usually they are much more cost effective. Fill the smaller bottles to take with you.
Other Drying Options
Dry flat
If a garment says to dry flat, the best way to do this is on a drying rack (I like this one from OXO because it folds up easily when not in use. Other less expensive ones I’ve tried fall apart or have to be unassembled and reassembled every time. This one also stacks nicely if there is limited space.
Line Dry
If a garment needs to line dry, hang it on a hanger that will not leave bumps from the ends of the hanger. This hanger for instance, can also hang clothes or washables when traveling and can be folded to pack.
If it’s heavy (like a heavy hoodie), hang it upside down to dry. When I hang my son’s hoodies, I use 2 skirt/slack hangers for each hoodie and distribute the weight between 4 clips.
If you have the room in the kitchen or basement, you can hang from a clothes rack. If you don’t have a basement in which to dry your clothes, they can be hung over the shower curtain bar in the bathroom with a mat or towel on the floor beneath if necessary (not usually necessary if machine washed and spun dry, but will be necessary if hand washed or not spun dry).